Are you too busy for your resolutions? Millions of people make resolutions each end of December, with the hopes of keeping them and making a better life for themselves. How does that work out? Honestly, most people can’t get past the middle of January with their resolution lists. Those that do make it a little farther, but very few make it for the year.
Do you know how long it takes to make something a habit? Research shows that a new habit takes form somewhere between 21 and 28 days. (That is just one month into the new year. ) I’ve been thinking about why resolutions fail. Here are some of my thoughts.
– Resolution lists are too long and challenging. People have high hopes and big goals, but they are often not realistic.
– There is no plan in place. How can you expect a change if you don’t make a plan to implement that change?
– What are you going to do differently to accommodate your new life-style? If you are resolving to exercise daily for 30 minutes, where are those 30 minutes coming from? You need to change other areas of your life to fit your new goals in.
– Big changes require a support system. You can’t quit smoking or drinking without a good support system. You can’t decide to change eating habits and eat more healthy without a support system. You can’t decide to carve out time for yourself with a hobby without a support system to take care of your family while you are out. Most resolutions you cannot complete on your own.
– Have you set up a scaffolding system to reach your goal or are you jumping in with both feet? Usually, if you set up a scaffolding system, you are more likely to find success and keep going. If you jump in with both feet, you are more likely to fail and quit.
– Have you asked God to help you achieve your goals?
With all of that being said, I don’t do resolutions. At least not in the traditional way. You see, it doesn’t need to be December 31 for me to decide that I need a change. That can happen any day of the year. Also, I am a bigger picture kind of girl. I try to think of a way I want to live in all situations. I know many people who also try to do this. For me, it is a more powerful and realistic way to make a change in your life.
One way to do this and succeed is to choose one word. One word to live by each day in all situations. This will be my 3rd year choosing one word. My first word was INTENTION. Last year was UNDERSTANDING. Living the entire year with one word in mind really helped to shape the person I am becoming. And do you know what? The “words” stick! They stick throughout the year and into the next year! It is an amazing transformation that is only possible through God.
Over the last two years, God has helped me become more patient, kind, and loving. He has helped me focus on what I need to focus on and let go of things that are occupying my time but not producing fruit. He has shown me a path that He wants me on. He has helped me be a better wife, mother, and teacher. He has done all of this a little at a time by giving me a word to focus on and pray about each day.
For this year, 2015, I think my word will be RELATIONSHIPS. I’d like to try to work on building some good, solid relationships. This scares me terribly, but sometimes, getting out of your comfort zone is where God can mold you best! I have decided to let go of some social media because this gives a false sense of relationship. I will be diligent in trying to nurture relationships in my life. I have some interesting ideas on how I am going to do this and I am sure God will show me some more ways to work on this throughout the year!
I wish you all a blessed new year and I will pray that you find peace in your goals. If you decide to live by a word, I’d love to hear what your word is and how you plan to do it if you know. Feel free to share in my comments or email me.